what is CONFIDENTIALITY?
honest relationships enjoy confidentiality. The root word is the latin "fide" from which we get our word "faith". to confide is to put "faith in". when a relationship is honest, we can put faith in it because we can trust it. confidentiality occurs over time as trust is tested and proven. we need time to be able to see confidentiality work before we will be able to lean into it.
Confidentiality is the gateway to many other healthy relationship characteristics. once we have a trusted confidant, we can enjoy vulnerability, risk and a host of other healthy dynamics. if confidentiality is broken or fails to develop, a healthy relationship will be difficult or impossible to develop until confidence is restored.
It's not the same as secrecy. When someone says, "please keep this confidential", it may sound like a secret but there is an important distinction. to put it simply: Confidentiality is a healthy privacy while secrecy is an unhealthy privacy. When we keep something in confidence, we establish good faith, trust, assurance and safety. When we keep something secret, we spread fear, anxiety, mistrust, gossip and dysfunction. be careful not to mistake the difference between secrecy and confidentiality in your relationships or you risk damaging relationships in the name of privacy.
Confidentiality is the gateway to many other healthy relationship characteristics. once we have a trusted confidant, we can enjoy vulnerability, risk and a host of other healthy dynamics. if confidentiality is broken or fails to develop, a healthy relationship will be difficult or impossible to develop until confidence is restored.
It's not the same as secrecy. When someone says, "please keep this confidential", it may sound like a secret but there is an important distinction. to put it simply: Confidentiality is a healthy privacy while secrecy is an unhealthy privacy. When we keep something in confidence, we establish good faith, trust, assurance and safety. When we keep something secret, we spread fear, anxiety, mistrust, gossip and dysfunction. be careful not to mistake the difference between secrecy and confidentiality in your relationships or you risk damaging relationships in the name of privacy.
